You don’t need a significant other 
to lead a significant life.
-Mandy Hale



The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge

Day 5: The biggest misconception you think people have about the single life

Here's what most people think about the single life.

5 Ds Of Misconceptions People Have
About The Single Life

Doomed

If you're single, you're doomed to be alone and unhappy forever. Ridiculous.

Desperate

You're delusional and is desperately waiting for the perfect man, for your knight in shining armor to rescue you.

Rescuing is not needed if you're good with who you are.

There's definitely no such thing as a perfect man and chivalry is sad to say nearing extinction. It's not about waiting for prince charming to come because life is not just about waiting for the person you exchange "i do's" with. That for me is desperation.

Imagine dedicating your life waiting to get married. I bet you'll marry any pig who would profess his love to you if that's the case.

Different (negative)

If you're still single, something's wrong with you. Clearly, something's wrong with the one who assumes this.

Distasteful

Nobody wants you. Wrong. You just realize that it's a huge waste of time to entertain men who aren't interesting or whom you know are not really that serious.

Why give them false hope if you don't want to have anything to do with them?

Dull

You live a very boring, lonely and empty life. Life's a choice. Even if you're married or sleeping around with 10 different partners, party every day or have 12 children, you will still feel lonely and empty if you choose to be.

If you're single, you are treated like a freak because you're the odd one out. Like you're from a far away planet and your life and everything about you can never be understood by "normal" people like them.

That's funny because whenever I speak with my friends who are either happily married, or single but obviously happy and satisfied, all they tell me is that I'm doing the right thing, I should never rush and that it's okay to stay single than "settle" for what's there or live up to other people's expectations.

Those who wittingly say negative things about my status are those who are definitely and obviously not happy with their state---married or not. Those who are struggling with where they are and are desperate to get out of their situation. Ironic.

It's true that some people hate you because they envy what they see in you, and perhaps in my case, it's being happy and contented with what I have and where I am.

Maybe they were (or still are) desperate, lonely, unhappy and miserable when they were single. And maybe those who are still single who have the same misconception aren't as happy as I am now.

Since majority gets married, the rest who doesn't are considered as outcasts. Like any other things, we all have our opinion about something. We may never understand why one chooses to do something but we're not asked to anyway.

The least we can do is respect the other person's choice.

I don't feel obliged to clear things out for those who don't understand but I hope someday, everyone will either respect each other or just let each other be. It's better that way.

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