-Dan Pearce
How many times have we given our all and not get anything in return? How many times have we fallen in love with the wrong person?
We know they're not good for us, but we can't avoid them. Or we choose not to listen to that inner voice and the concerned voices around us.
Then we get hurt or wonder what we did wrong when we knew the answer all along:
We fell in love with the wrong person. It's as simple as that.
We fell in love with the wrong person. It's as simple as that.
So the next time cupid comes along and aims his arrow at you, duck. Or at least delay it until you're sure. Until you're sure that he's not aiming for the 5 types of people not to fall in love with.
5 Types Of People Not To Fall In Love With
Impatient person
They will not wait for you. They will not tolerate the pressure that distance or time or a little difficulty along the way would bring. They won't wait for things to be okay. Don't fall in love with an impatient person. They won't stay.
All-words-no-action type
A dreamer who stays stuck in his dreams and illusions and never want to face reality. A person who lives in his world and forgets where he really is. Don't fall in love with a dreamer who doesn't act. You'll never be able to bring him out of his own world.
Someone who doesn't listen
Listening is the most basic sign and highest form of respect. If your opinion doesn't matter to him, so does all of you. You are relevant. What you think is important. If he can't see that, being with him is pointless.
Too dependent on you
It does not have to be financial. If he takes too much of your time, drains you, depends on you to make him feel better or guide him in every step he takes, don't let yourself fall. You'll end up empty. He'll suck you dry.
Unbeliever
He'll always doubt, he'll always have something to complain about. Don't fall in love with the unbeliever. He'll never see the light no matter how much you try to point it to him.And it's not true that he doesn't have a god. He is his own god.
Don't just fall. I know the feeling is exhilarating, but is it really worth the pain and the mess you'll have to deal with afterwards?
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107 comments
Its so hard to fall in love with anyone these days. We are so shielded with our insecurities, our feelings of doubt and being afraid to get hurt.
ReplyDeleteC'est très intéressant et très vrai! Effectivement c'est assez difficile de trouver LA bonne personne... Après plus de 21 ans de vie commune, j'ai enfin trouver mon amoureux ♥
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Super, super, Lux!!!
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Such good stuff!
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I thought I had fallen in love with the good boy... only to find out that wasn't true... he still pretends to be the good boy... which is what he wants to be thought of... they are the worst type... :-(
ReplyDeleteI'm totally agree with you!
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Hello Lux, How true these 5 types are. A great summary. The much too dependent one is the most common I see among people I know. I believe that a couple needs to have personal space too. Giving personal space is a form of respect.
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Oh boy these are so true !
ReplyDeletexx
All such wise words. Particularly chuckled over the gif to number 5!! xxx
ReplyDeleteThis list is too good, everything is so true!
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You're such an amazing writer, Lux! :)
ReplyDeleteDamn. I kinda fall under four and five. I've just been burned a lot.
ReplyDeleteAll of these are such great tips! You always try to look back on past ones and try to change but sometimes it never works! Thanks for the share!
ReplyDeleteDenise | Fashion Love Letters
when I was in college number 4 is my problem haha true you'll end up empty and empty pockets, too! lol
ReplyDeletebtw, my blogger feed is okay na. refresh lang pala haha :D
ReplyDeletelove this post! i totally agree, and wish i had read this when i was younger (not applicable to my hubby of course, only the weirdos i dated before him, haha).
ReplyDeletelove, liz
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All great points. I couldn't imagine being with someone that was impatient and didn't believe in me.
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Cool post.
ReplyDeleteLove your pics and gifs.
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It's fun to read through! You are a great writer!
ReplyDeletexo, Jane
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These types of personality are really hard to live with them and it's better to avoid them especially in love.
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I agree with you Lux. It's just so so hard to find someone who's genuinely into you for you, you know? It's like they don't even exist anymore, you know? It's just so so sad though. Haiz..! I've been with someone who was overly too dependent and impatient. Worst experience ever!!!
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Hey Lux, it's been a while. I'm loving your new space and i totally agree with you especially on "one that is too dependent on you"
ReplyDeleteI know how lucky I am to have fallen for my love at 16, and here we are 27 years later! :)
ReplyDeleteFantastic tips, I agree. When we know our worth, we won't settle for anything less than the best. Appreciate yourself and you won't let others under-appreciate you!! I hope you have a great day doll xx
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad I've found the perfect guy. And so early in my life, too.
ReplyDeleteVery good and useful points! I can't agree more with "if you don't see your worth you'll always choose people that don't see it either" and "we accept the love we think we deserve" - so powerful. :) Really great post.
ReplyDeleteIncredible post! I enjoyed the gifs you included as well, always makes it so much fun to read! xo // Naomi in Wonderland
ReplyDeleteHi Lux, Your younger followers are lucky to get your wisdom. You may save them a lot of pain. Another well done post! John
ReplyDeleteA very good list, Lux! Persons with one or more of those traits are not uncommon at all...
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing!
Very wise words, but sometimes it's easier said than done.
ReplyDeleteHi sweetie
ReplyDeletethis article is very interesting. Great quotes
Kisses
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A great list here :)
ReplyDeleteSuch a great list, because it's all true!!
ReplyDeleteShauna
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Hi Lux, this was another great post. I loved the quote, the tips you shared and I really enjoyed the fun way you presented it all... well done.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are enjoying your day... :)
I love this list and I'm glad I'm already in Love so that I don't have to keep looking for someone-- it takes so MUCH energy!
ReplyDeleteMelanie @ meandmr.com
After 50 years of marriage I can tell you this firmly, love is not a feeling but an act of the will. The feeling leave so easily. Thank God He gave us the tool of our will to keep love going. Good post.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting post! =)
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Jessica
Oh the all mouth but no action guy is the worst. Who wants to hear empty promises, NO ONE. Amazing post girl.
ReplyDeleteKay of Pure & Complex
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This list is so good and I'll try and remember all of this because there is nothing worse when someone doesn't listen or believe in you. x x x
ReplyDeleteBeyond The Velvet | Beauty, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog
I think the ones who don't listen and the ones who are too dependent are the worst!
ReplyDeleteI love that quote from The Perks of Being a Wallflower.
wow, great post , i like the one of the unbeliever.
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Amen, amen! These are great tips!
ReplyDelete-Ashley
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Boy did you nail it with this one! #3 is my favorite -- listen! So few people actually do that!
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Taylor Swift's song "Blank Space" summed up how it was for me, pretty much every time (except the last--my husband!). It all starts out beautiful but it goes horribly wrong at some point. If I could go back and tell myself anything, it would be "Don't EVER sacrifice your dignity for anyone. If they don't want to be with you, just walk." It never ended well when they started acting all wonky on me! Never. When someone's into you, he shows it every day (well, pretty much). When someone isn't into you, it's just all excuses.
ReplyDeleteWe all do every now and then fall to the wrong type of guy. I wish everyone luck to find the Prince Charming that treating you as a princes. I've found one myself over ten years. I can tell you that how easy life it is when you with the right gentleman. Oxoxox.
ReplyDeleteTanya
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Love these tips. I Think over dependance is a massive turn off!
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Your points were well taken. The MOST important one was Not to fall in love with an Unbeliever. Make certain they have a firm foundation on Jesus Christ and they are not just trying to fool you into thinking they are born again. Pray and ask God, is this really the one? Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.
ReplyDeleteGreat tips, falling in love with someone who doesn't listen can be really frustrating!!
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I could not be with someone who doesn't listen. It just shows such a lack of respect. I consider myself to be a great listener which is maybe why it bothers me so much when it's not reciprocated. That one applies to friendships too!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more with avoiding someone who is too dependent on you. Independence is sexy! But I'm hiding this post from my hubby because I'm so impatient :(
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post! I think people who don't listen and are impatient are a definite no no!
ReplyDeleteRachel xx
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I agree wholeheartedly, Lux....and I will add one more. Don't fall in love with someone who is abusive to animals. Anyone who hurts animals for no reason won't hesitate to hurt people.
ReplyDeletehi darling, very interesting post
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Such an interesting post! Nice tips and thanks for sharing!
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Nice post and you are so right. Unfortunately we only learn these things from making mistakes and falling in love with the wrong person
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Could have used this a handful of years ago. However, falling in love is ok as long as you realize that things have a natural end and move on... there's always something or someone else just around the corner.
ReplyDeleteI can't stand with the guys who have really high self-esteem
ReplyDeleteYou're right!
ReplyDeleteBisous,
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I hate guys who only have his words and yet don't show it in actions. I've met someone before and I ended up hating him so much. Anyway, thanks for reminding us all of these. :)
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day!
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Love the quote. It's so true. And love starts within us, anyway, for sure.
ReplyDeleteI agree! But to be honest, I am a very impatient person, so I beg you, boys, don't read this, haha. And just to mention that my bf don't listen that much, but we are already 5 years together. For the rest - it's true!
ReplyDeleteUsefull tips!
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Oooh how about don't fall in love with someone who doesn't love themselves?
ReplyDeleteP.S. I am a very impatient person, I'm lucky my husband puts up with me!
So true - self worth is important.
ReplyDeleteAwesome! Thank you for sharing this to us and have an amazing Friday! :)
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Some of those things are hard to know..at first sight. I guess that's where all the talking can make a difference. Great post!
ReplyDeleteI'm too old for this. But I guess it's a good post someone can learn from.
ReplyDeletethe no action part also goes for not showing love through actions but only in words.
ReplyDeleteMy first time here. I like what you're doing. Kudos!
ReplyDeleteWishing you a nice day babe
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Exactly :)
ReplyDeleteGreat tips! First love yourself and then these drips don't have a chance. If they adore their truck and beer more than you then they need to be kicked to the curb:) So that pink dress from an earlier post-really pretty
ReplyDeleteA powerful post. With wisdom I wish I didn't learn the hard way.
ReplyDeleteReally wise words! Doesn't leave many people though ;-)
ReplyDeleteSuze | LuxuryColumnist
Great words about falling into love with the right person. I think you hit it spot on who you shouldn't fall in love with. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteSometimes, I'd rather be single than fall in love with the wrong one. But then, that is how we learn :)
ReplyDeleteDropping by to wish you a lovely Friday and ahead of a weekend Lux.:).
ReplyDeleteTanya
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Agree with you completely. Falling is love is an amazing experience but to carry it forward is not that easy always!
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Couldn't agree more! Ahhh, although I'm one of the impatient ones, I think (but not all the time?) Hehe.
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Have a wonderful day!
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Excellent list, Lux. It's so important to remember to always stay true to yourself and never settle...wise words my mother taught me.
ReplyDeleteI agree with every type! Nobody who is imaptient, dependant on me or not self confident will be happy with him/her self, so for sure I wont make them happy!
ReplyDeleteHave a good weekend!
xoxox
Very true words! Especially the one about falling in love with the unbeliever. The bible warns against that. I've seen it in my own family. Nothing but heart break ...
ReplyDeleteNice post!
ReplyDeleteHave a great week end!
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This was hilarious and sad at the same time - I related to so much. Definitely been involved with a few of these assholes in my life. Urgh - glad to be rid of them, especially the ones that somehow managed to break my heart!!
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard to find the gems these days - but they are there!! We just mustn't forget that EVERYONE has their flaws xx
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Been quite a long time that I missed your posts. Well, this is certainly a great post. I am short of words to comment. I could not agree more with your words.
ReplyDeleteGreat post and so true, especially the "Unbeliever"
ReplyDeleteAllie of ALLIENYC
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Great post and info.
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Excellent advice for all the single people---VERY true!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about that quote and all the other issues you addressed. Very interesting and fun topic; great post.
ReplyDeleteI dont know what to say.. I totally agree to the points but why do we alays fall for the wrong people..why do we seek attention of those who dont even care.. They dont see the efforts at all.. And because of this we dont accept the right people in our lives either..
ReplyDeleteThis is wonderful encouragement for so many. I always try to tell women, especially family and friends that we must listen to God's voice inside of us as it will not misguide us.
ReplyDeleteMany of us get into bad situations because of the choices we've made because of physical desires.
This has blessed me and I have received it as life lessons. Thank God I made a great choice with my hubby..
Thanks Beautiful Soul
patience is definitely an essential virtue in a partner! :)
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post and you share amazing advice too! x x
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I totally agree with you! One should stay aways from guys like that. On the other hand the heart wants what it wants :D
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Very interesting post and great tips! ;)
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Hi dear,
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Btw, great post.
Kisses
This is true but (un)fortunately we always fall in love with one of this person!
ReplyDeleteSee you Lux xx
Gorgeous post! I totally agree with you!
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aha! I can relate on # 2 and #4 that is exactly what my ex is!. love your posts very inspirational. hope you can check my blog =)
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Excellent advice. In my younger years I didn't do well, but I figured it out when I got older. I married the right guy and we've been happy every since.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous day. ☺
Great post! Definitely important things to think about. I might add- don't fall in love with someone who wants you to be someone you are not.
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Thanks for sharing this wonderful article...
ReplyDeleteThis post is very nice !
ReplyDeleteHave a lovely weekend :)
It can be hard to find out who these people are at first, but if you steadily find out that you they have qualities like this, it should be broken off because in time it isn't always going to get better. Good pointers here!
ReplyDeleteGreat post dear,
ReplyDeletelove the tips and they are lovely and true