just so the other person will like and accept you.
"How would you like your egg?"
In the movie Runaway Bride, lead female character Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts) was always almost married before she met Ike (Richard Gere) who pointed out what's wrong with her.
Maggie does not have her own identity, so much so that she doesn't even know what kind of egg she likes. It changes from boiled to sunny side up to whatnot depending on what the man she's dating likes.
Reminds you of anyone?
Life Lesson From Runaway Bride
Most people tend to adjust to their partners' wants that leads them to lose their own identity. They want to please the other person so much that they are afraid to show their real self and speak their minds.It's okay to compromise to keep a balance in every relationship. What is not okay is neglecting your own needs and sacrificing your own happiness for the other person's sake all the time.
Relationships is about give and take. If you are the only giver, you end up with nothing. Eventually, the relationship that you have been trying to save by sacrificing your needs will destroy you and your partner.
It is important to establish rules and put your cards on the table on the onset of the relationship.
Honesty may be inconvenient at first but it will go a long way. Pretending to be somebody you're not will eventually take its toll. Everybody wants a healthy, honest relationship.
When you know what you really want, your partner will honor it and will be willing to compromise.
Unless of course he is selfish in which case you need to end the deal before it's too late.Don't pretend to be somebody you're not just so the other person will like and accept you. That is a sure recipe for a disastrous relationship.
Now, how would you like your egg?
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11 comments
I think we definitely shouldn't lose ourselves in a relationship but it isn't always easy when you want to make someone happy... the truth is like you said, if we don't take care of our needs... we will not be able to take care of anyone elses needs either.. very sound advice... ;)
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ReplyDeleteIt's a balance which sometimess is not easier said than done. Still, that's how I have been surviving all these years. By the way, am following on blogger. If you don't mind, pls do the same. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteIf you feel like you have to change for your partner, then he or she isn't the one. I've been with my fiancé for 13 years and I can be 100% myself when I am with him. He likes his eggs sunny side up and I like them boiled and that is just fine ;-)
ReplyDeleteLOVE THIS. So wise, I wish I had thought that way when I was a younger woman and dated a slew of jerks who tried to stop me from being me. My fiance and I disagree on all sorts of things - BUT we support each other in being OURSELVES, two people who love each other. I think women need to realize their own strength :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! We have to love ourselves first. Compromise but don't loose yourself. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteMadame Dreamer
Another good message. We should be who we are no matter what other people think.
ReplyDeleteActually a lots of relationship are like that,always someone is giving too much and waiting for a time to explode.
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting on Motivation Monday!
ReplyDeleteI love this, and hate it... In a good way.
ReplyDeleteI close that you took the time to write this thought out and I hate the fact that many times I do not know what kind of egg I like. I have spent my 25 years of marriage happily serving my husband and our boys. I am delighted to manage the house, homeschool the kids, and serve them fingerpicking good meals. Somewhere along the way I forgot to include my self into the equation.
Where do I want to go? What do I like? What kind of egg do I want? I'm not sure... But I am going to prayerfully consider the answers!!