Dear Lux,

I feel exactly the same way! I hate gossip, and I know that if someone speaks badly to me about someone else, they will also speak badly about me to someone else! I get tired of people complaining, putting others down and just making life miserable. Hugs and love to you, thank you so much for sharing this.

Wow! Powerful post! I could feel your heart coming through in this one. Agree!

I share your thoughts too! It's pathetic to even know that people tend to celebrate other people's lows and weaknesses more than your highs.
The way out is to start with ourselves cos the moment you try to put others down, someone else is taking note and doing same to you but if you celebrate our positives and overlook the flaws while lovingly correcting them then we are preserving a better world

It's sad that so many people get pleasure out of making others miserable. Thanks for the important message that we all need to be kinder to each other.

Julie

Dear Lux, I am not a genuis... like you I wonder why people have to tear each other down instead of building each other up... it's really sad, I truly hope people will stop and think about how hurtful they can be.... xox ♡

Well, dear Lux, these sound like the musings of a very WISE person, not a delusional one. Good questions that should make us stop in our tracks and reconsider what we're doing ... and why.

Great thoughts, and really food for thought. Thanks for sharing and best wishes!

Gossip is suuuuuuch a pain- and so unnecessary. I wish it would just go away, too!

-Ashley
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Amen! Yes ,we can do a lot to make the life all together more beautiful und and worth living :)
Thank you for this wonderful Post <3

lots of Hugs :)

Of course we can do all above, but unfortunately some people need help. It's a pity when they criticize and gossip but they don't try to change their self instead. I think a lot of people need to read this!

Lux, those are all questions we ponder often as we see so much disregard for other's feelings and opinions around us. I hate gossip, and it's so easy to get caught up in it.. For some, I guess it makes them feel better somehow to be "in the know" even if they aren't really in it. I guess we just need to be responsible for ourselves to make sure we don't fall into these bad habits.

I am definitely not a genius and alas I have no answers to your questions.

Haha! I love the slogan on the pic!
Xx,
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Personally I always try to believe this world is curable of what might be wrong with it at the moment. I remember the first time I was gossiped about - it wasn't anything especially nasty, but it shocked me to my core because I hadn't considered people would do such a thing at that time. I do think we can all become better people first, and then help others become it as well.

Fantastically written post and I totally agree with everything you mentioned ! I wish I could answer your questions, but I often wonder the same

XO Naomi in Wonderland

Thank Lux. I have one golden rule for myself: "Begin with Yourself (with Jesus), then the World."

Indeed! Couldn't agree more. I have given up on the world's ways as in people are just getting horrible day by day. So I just focus on the things I have to do the right way. And stop worrying!! Works for me

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I totally agree with you..gossip ruins your mind...
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A gossip-free world. Yes, indeed. The mind wanders. :-)

Greetings from London.

Very well said and all very true. May I also ask why we insist on doing it front of children?

I don't have good answers, sorry, not this day, I'm a little sad.
I've been wasting precious hours today on negative thoughts, but I want to feel better... :)

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Hi Lux! I wish I could answer your questions, but I'm afraid I am usually guilty of one or more of these things. It's not that I want to be AT ALL, but I fall into a bad practice more than I'd like.
I'll keep picking myself up and trying again Lux. You're right, the world can be a better place when we just try...
Blessings,
Ceil

"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9. The human heart is so depraved, that we truly don't know just how wicked man can be. Are you delusional? Maybe...but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't strive for those things. Maybe we all could benefit from being a little delusional. :)

it's hard to imagine a gossip free world..

Hi Lux, As I’ve told you before, when I click on About Life and Love I better be ready to lean back in the chair and go into contemplation mode. This post definitely sends me there. I’ll be interested to check back on the comments to see if any genius can give us some worthy answers. I am certainly no genius but my philosophy goes back to this: What goes around … comes around. If you spread love, care, and kindness, it will come back to you. The same is true on the other side, so no wonder the popular “haters gonna hate.” I simply try to keep the haters out of my life as much as possible. Now, one more thing: I love your new profile pic! Did you draw it yourself? What a pretty lady! Take good care Lux!

Well, humans love to gossip because they easily get bored. I think the only solution is space travel - no one in Star Trek ever gossips.

Hi, dear Lux! I wish I had the answers. I am not a genius and therefore I don't. I don't think human nature has changed over the millennia. It has only become more painfully evident via modern technology.

Many times the answer (solution) is simple AND not easy. People know on an intellectual level that they can increase their chances of living a long, healthy, happy life if they avoid smoking, remain drug free, use alcohol in moderation and adhere to a diet that is low on sugar, salt and fat. It's simple to follow those guidelines and, for many people, it is not easy.

If planet earth suddenly came under attack by an invading horde of hostile aliens, wars and petty personal disputes would come to an end. People around the world would stop fighting each other and band together in a common purpose, that of defending the human race against annihilation. In the wake of the 9-11 attacks, people in my country were more united than they had been for years and for that reason I was never more proud to be an American. The traumatic event brought us together as one mind, grieving together and pulling together. However, within a few months, I started to notice an erosion of that harmony as people put the tragedy behind them and settled back into their daily lives. People fell back into their old habits of picking on each other in personal encounters and anonymously flaming on social media. Soon it became painfully clear how deeply divided we are politically, racially and in other respects.

When it feels so good to love why do so many choose to hate? I wish I had the answer, dear friend. Thank you, Lux, for a well written, thought provoking post!

less gossip would definitely make the world a better place!
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the tearing down of another to feel better about oneself is getting worse all the time - thanks to media coverage, social media platforms spreading things as fast as wildfire. trolls, haters, cynics run amok. sometimes we must simply turn our backs to ignore them and not fuel their fires.

I think without struggles, we wouldn't know how to stand tall and get through things you know? So a gossip free world would be great, but I love the fact that God created he light at the end of the tunnel. :). Hang in there.

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It takes one person at a time to answer these questions. Asking them is our beginnings. Following them ourselves is our responsibility. Maybe others will take notice. Responding to their gossip by speaking up, saying that I will see you later because I choose not to gossip, not to speak against so-an-so, etc. These are hard to do, and we may lose friends, but if we begin with ourselves, others may follow or at least think about it.
Changing the world is not easily accomplished unless we start with ourselves and then make it known to those in our "circle of influence."
Yes, I do the things you list, but I try not to. I also try to change. Me...and be Christ-like in the eyes of others. I lose friends. I touch others. I want to be more of an image of Christ than not. TOUGH though! But, as Ceil says, picking ourselves up after flubbing up is what we must do.
Caring through Christ, ~ linda

u are so right lux... Pointing fingers at others, gossiping botching about others wont make us a better person .. We need to feel positive about everything we come across to make this world a better place

Yup. I totally feel the same.

Have a lovely weekend:)

I dont really see how you can make your life better by criticizing the other person. There is a remedy to this - LOVE.

Nice reading your piece!

Such a thought-provoking article!

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YES! EXACTLY! I recognize so much in these questions! I ask them a lot myself! Great blogpost!
WritingMonique

I think the reason is that some people are just bored and disappointed with their own lives that they take joy in picking on other people's lives. Great post though.

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Can we stop projecting our frustrations and insecurities towards others by criticizing them, and face our own monsters and conquer our own mountains instead? --- This part spoke to me Luxy...If I had a dollar for how many times I have asked people to face their own demons and stop projecting their insecurities on others....Lovely Post Luxy...Muah!

Some people simply thrive on making others miserable. Unfortunately, those who spread unhappiness are found every where. I suppose the trick is to learn to identify them and then keep our distance. There are loving people out there, I wish they were easier to find.

I am completely in-love with this post! Happy Monday dear! :)


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This post is so profound and necessary. And, a reminder that if we offend someone with our unkind words and judgment, we must make it right. Furthermore, we must use that as a lesson to always do better and, if we do not have anything nice to say, we must remain silent.

Fabulous.

Yulunda

great post ,
So beautiful written as always,i always try to be nice to people as much as i can

Oh friend, this is absolutely spot ON!!! YES yes yes YES!! AMEN to it all!!! Sharing!

If you are delusional, then so am I! I like living that kind of "delusional."

Absolutely enjoyed these thoughts. They make a lot of sense especially #2 and the last point. As someone said, "If you can't make life easier for someone else don't even make it harder".
Many Blessings to you.

Yes to all of this!! So needed!! Have a wonderful week :) x

Thank you for this post. I have always wonder what people gain by bringing others down. We now live in a world where people thing they have opinion in others life.

I hate that we all gossip, judge, and put each other down. And why? There's no real personal gain behind doing any of it. We need to change and I hope we can, but I fear it won't ever happen.

Augh. I feel this way too! Why can't we all just get along??? It's pretty stupid how much turmoil people bring into each others' lives.

If only. The world would definitely be a better place.

what a lovely and thoughtful post! i think the only thing we really can do is to make sure we ourselves live life the way we want it to be and in this way try to influence others around us:-) x

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Beautifully written. If you have nothing nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all. People should be more respectful of others.

Florals&Smiles

Gossip free always exists in this world and even every society. Sometimes, it makes me crazy but hey who give a *** about it. We are all human-being, and we can talk so let those keep talking while we can spend time in thinking how to stay positive in such environment :)

I feel the same as you sweetheart - the world is the way the world is though - I think they things that bug us need to be there. They teach us lessons, help us grow, build our characters. Some people it destroys, some people is infects, and some people beat it. It's the way the world works I think... don't think it will ever fully change, sadly.. :(

Bridezilla xxx

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I love the idealism here! I think change starts with us, but it is frustrating that there is only so much we can do. I think gossip comes from an innate curiosity about other people. We want to connect with them and know their stories...plus we want a common interest to share with other people.

Yes, I agree!!

My husband once asked God "Why do I not love people more?" God said, "because in order to love people you must love me more." May we keep our eyes on Jesus and love him more. Jesus told us to love our neighbor as much as we love our self. We must see our self as God sees us. Thanks for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

Well said. For awhile in my life it seemed that I had almost no one because I no longer wanted to associate with those type of people. My son went through this as well in middle school and high school. It's sad.

Hiya from Oz (Australia) I agree with all you have written.. My sister once said that people who gossip have got nothing else to do, and that is true and also sad.. AND boring! Gods words says, " we are of this world, but are not to be a part of this world." and I guess that goes for the gossip, slander and other meanness. Christians can be clever at doing this also... The ay, "We need to pray for so and so....and then proceed to tell all." Anyhow...we are also told by Gods word, "to think on things that are good." Philippians 4:8... and I prefer to do that.. Hug to you today.

Hello sweet one,
Let's pray into this wonderful vision for a better world! Beth Moore once said, "If we are to err, let's err on the side of faith" As we pray this big prayer of faith, may we remember to ask Him to start by changing our own hearts.
Blessings and hugs,
Kamea

Great questions! I think all we can do is start by demonstrating the behaviors we would like to see around us. Spreading kindness and acceptance will help one small step at a time. I know we can't expect to change others, but if people are showered with kindness it will be harder for them to behave in a negative way and might even start to change their outlook. :)

~Jess

You brought out some powerful points here. Very well written.

Sigh, I have been caring too much sometime, i guess you need to be happy doing the things you like is important~

These are the ways of the world! As long as there is someone like you in this world, I believe there is hope. I find this more optimistic than idealistic. The best that we can do is to demonstrate the change that we want to see the world, and I hope everyone else will follow.