You invest time, feelings, and a lot of yourself in a relationship. That's why breakups are never easy.
It can affect your mental and physical health.
As you grab a fresh box of tissue to wipe your tears, you wonder if you'd ever recover from that agonizing, heart-wrenching, soul-crushing breakup.
The answer is yes. You can move on.
How to get over a breakup?
When the love of your life broke up with you and walked out the door, you might feel like it's the end of the world.
When the love of your life broke up with you and walked out the door, you might feel like it's the end of the world.
It's not.
Breakups may be distressing but there are helpful steps to heal properly, recover fully, and find your happiness again.
As a bonus, you might even find new love.
Here are 6 helpful steps you can take to heal and recover from a breakup.
6 Helpful Steps to Heal & Recover from a Breakup
1. Work on yourself
Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake & help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for. -Mandy Hale
Get physical.
One of the best ways to heal and get over a breakup is to take care of and work on yourself.
Now that you're single again, this may be a good time to get into shape.
Sweat it out.
You can try a new career like becoming a personal trainer by taking courses through OriGym Glasgow.
Practice yoga meditation. It can help you to not only stay fit but also clear your mind from the bad memories of the breakup.
Eat right.
It may be tempting to drown your sorrows in wine - or ice cream - after a breakup.
Don't!
Your food can affect your mood.
Stay away from food that can cause depression and have more of what can lift your spirit. Check out the list here.
Drink up delicious and healthy smoothies that can help increase your energy.
Breakups can be draining. You need your strength back.
Learn and try something new.
There are hundreds of skills you can learn online...for free.
Even Ivy League universities and big-time companies like Google offer free online courses with certification.
Get a new hobby.
Read a different book genre.
Visit an animal shelter and volunteer. You might end up going home with a soulmate that will never break up with you.
With the limitless information from the internet and your determination to heal, you can learn anything.
You can do anything you set your heart into.
Don't let the pain of the breakup break your spirit.
Use it as a motivation not only to improve your health but to also improve the quality of your life.
2. Talk about your feelings
Instead of fighting the darkness, bring in the light.Round up your support team!
Find people you can trust and those who will not judge you.
Surround yourself with those who are willing to listen, who will lift you higher, and allow you to heal at your own pace.
You can recover from a breakup faster when you share and open up to a friend.
It helps unburden the heavy load you carry.
Your friends may have gone through the same thing before. Their insights about their own breakup experience can help enlighten you.
You need empathy, comfort, assurance, affirmation, and a warm hug.
You need someone who can talk sense into you.
Because breakups can leave you illogical and senseless.
Who can better provide you with these things but a true friend?
Talking about your feelings makes them more real.
It's like bringing the darkness you carry into the light.
The earlier you acknowledge the reality that it's over, the sooner you can take the next step to recovery.
3. Go on vacation alone
We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us.Take a break from crying and from your pity party.
Leave your breakup woes behind.
Go on vacation!
Enjoy your independence but be a smart traveler.
Try local delicacies.
Spend reflecting and working through your feelings.
Take your mind off negative thoughts by filling your eyes with breathtaking views.
Get over a breakup by getting out of the door and going on a much-needed vacation.
4. Journal your feelings
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. -Maya AngelouWrite down your feelings in a journal.
What's on your mind?
A lot of things will be running through your head after the breakup.
What did I do wrong?
Am I not enough?
Can we still work it out?
Is it really over?
Breakups can drive you crazy.
Organize your thoughts by writing them down.
Write about your future plans.
What do you want in a relationship?
Specify what your non-negotiables are in a partner.
The book Write It Down, Make It Happen by Henriette Klauser tells us how writing down our thoughts and desires can be a powerful force in getting what we want in life.
It's like ordering from the universe and waiting for it to deliver your request.
Blessing made especially for you. With a little extra on the side. Compliments of the chef.
When I was single, I also wrote down the things I want for my spouse.
I married the man I asked for. And more!
Let your breakup bring out your creativity.
Allow your breakup to open your eyes to your worth and raise your standards.
Believe in the power of written words.
5. Have fun with your friends
The best days of your life may just be the days you spent aimlessly with your friends. - How I Met Your MotherNot only do you need your friends to wipe your tears after a breakup.
You also need them to make you laugh again.
Enjoy a girls' night out.
Try a hobby together or go on vacation with them.
Stay in and stream movies online.
To heal and recover from a breakup, it's good to remember that you're not alone.
There are people out there cheering you on.
Your heart may be broken now but that doesn't mean you can't have fun.
6. Start dating again
Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. - Lau TzuWhen you’re ready, start to date again after you heal and recover from a breakup.
There's no rule as to how long you should wait to meet new people.
Start dating when you know you're up for it. Don't force yourself.
Don't date just because you've heard that your ex is going out with someone.
Or that you want to speed up the process of recovery.
Dating around while still getting over your breakup will not heal you. It will just make things complicated.
Respect other people's time and feelings.
Most of all, respect your emotions.
Trust the process.
No need to hurry because there are hundreds of online dating sites and apps to choose from.
Final word on healing and recovery from a breakup
Even when you feel like you've already found the one, relationships are uncertain.
You may end up at the altar with your partner...or alone in your bed crying your eyes out for weeks.
Breakups are inevitable. But heartbreaks aren't forever.
Consider it a lesson not a failure on your part. Focus on the good things that you got from the relationship.
Trust that there’s someone better out there for you.
But also don't be scared of being single. There are many good and cool things about going solo.
These helpful steps can help you truly heal from the pain and recover from that messy breakup.
I'm rooting for you. Because you deserve to be happy again.
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