Why Dating Can Be More Successful As You Get Older

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Dating advice from a guest blogger:

As we age, it’s natural that our views on dating change.

As a young man, I was giving off plenty of male pheromones while I was in search of a partner. I focused a lot on the attraction aspect of dating and did my best in that area. Looking back on it now I admit I had an immature view about dating.

I was looking for things that were superficial. I never thought those things could or would diminish with age.

With every year that passes, we learn. And the more we learn, the more successful we could get in dating...and in life.

I’m going to explore the ways I’ve found dating to be more successful as I’ve gotten older.

And if you’re at the later stage of your life and dating or dating older women, I’m sure you can relate.

Why Dating Can be More Successful as You Get Older

1. You’re more sure of yourself

When you’re younger, you can more likely change for your partner. And in doing so, you'll lose yourself.

When I was in my early 20's, I met someone and fell head over heels.

I adapted to her taste in music, television, and whatnot. I wasn’t pretending because I genuinely appreciated the things she loved.

But the problem was that...

I ended up focusing on her interests and ignoring my own.

In the end, I didn’t like the person I had become. I wasn't myself anymore.

As an adult, I’ve got time to focus on my own interests and become more self-assured.

I now understand the importance of staying true to myself. And that it's a good place to find a partner.

Dating Can be More Successful as You Get Older because you're more sure of yourself

2. You may be financially stable

There’s something to be said about having a supportive partner who supports you through anything.

But it can also be rewarding to find a partner when you’ve already passed the pains in your career.

You may now be working fewer nights and have some money set aside. This is the ideal time to focus on a new relationship.

Couples are likely to argue over finances, and may even break up over money.

So when you date later in life and are more stable, this issue could be off the table.

Dating Can Be More Successful As You Get Older because you're financially table

3. You’ve made your mistakes

Sometimes you reach a certain age, you look back on your relationship choices...and cringe. Or even regret it.

None of us are perfect, and it’s important to see where we’ve made mistakes.

Because if we can’t see it, we’re doomed to repeat the ghosts of bad relationships past.

When you're more mature, you’ve probably sorted out the skeletons in your closet and are ready to give and accept love in a healthy way.

You know what you want, but more importantly, you know who you are.

Dating Can Be More Successful As You Get Older because you've already made mistakes

4. Your goals are different

Dating when you’re younger is often focused on one goal: to get married and have kids.

But if you’ve already been there and done that, you can take things slow.

There’s no rush to find out if the person you’re dating is the one. You don't worry about the body clock anymore.

Getting past that child-rearing age can take a ton of pressure off your love life.

Dating Can Be More Successful As You Get Older because your goals are different

When you find yourself dating later in life, you may be in a better place to find true love.

There are no deadlines and you can be in a place to make her feel secure ---financially and emotionally.

Most people don’t set out to date in their 30's, 40's and beyond. But if you look at it the right way, it may be considered a blessing.

Lux G.

Lux is a social entrepreneur, and investor with a passion for romance novels and an uncanny knack for turning words into marketing magic at Internet Marketing Ad. She believes all things are possible through Christ.